Valentines Day is nearly upon us and as I scroll through checking out my usual blogs I see all of these fantastic items that are being suggested as presents. I can’t help but think, all I really want is some time out with my husband and something to really show me how much we appreciate each other.
It really got me thinking about all the little things we used to do that seem to go by the wayside when you include 3 kids, a dog, new jobs, a restaurant and businesses.
All the little things like spending a day preparing a meal for my husband, writing him a note when I leave the house early or taking the time to call him during the day just to find out how his day is going, don’t seem to happen very often anymore. Wow, don’t I sound like a nasty ol’ house wife!
I all too often hear people say “it’s Valentines Day everyday” or “I don’t believe in Valentines Day” so this year I say screw that! Do something that is a hell of a lot harder that dropping bombs on one present. This year, really give something from the heart (sigh).
I have pulled up my old engagement photos you see here for a little love inspiration. Nothing says love like a man proposing and these pictures were taken within seconds of the big event.
Nobody loves a gorgeous new watch or some yummy perfume on Valentines Day more than me but this year I am making it about the small things.
We have decided to engage in 2 acts of ‘mindful’ kindness every day for the week. I know it doesn’t sound like much but when you get to 3pm and realise you haven’t remembered to do one, two becomes plenty.
Here are my top 10 suggestions to add a little love (or a sizzle) to your relationship for Valentines Day.
1: Leave a note if you leave the house first. This could be a love note, a note describing what you will do to him later (wink wink) or simply just a have a lovely day note.
2: Pick one day to make an extra special effort for dinner. This is Andrew’s language of love, the way to his heart is through his belly!
3: Pick one day to have the house spotless for when he gets home. Ok, so this sounds a bit naff but I can put my hand on my heart and say this is something that very rarely happens in my house. Between dinner, bath, toy room, washing etc, the house is usually in a state and I know this is something he would appreciate.
4: Write a lovely email (or sexy email) to your partner.
5: Organise a date night! It doesn’t have to be on Valentines Day. I find that when we organise a babysitter we very rarely do it for just the two of us. Make it about just you two.
6: Wear your sexy lingerie for a whole day! This will not only subconsciously make you feel good but he might notice too. Unfortunately Andrew won’t notice this act of ‘love’ (it’s not his thing) but at least it will make me feel good.
7: Make time to engage in something that he will love, something you don’t usually do. In my case I will go with Andrew to the driving range and kick his butt at his beloved golf. Valentines Day take that!
8: Come home early from work to cook dinner. Which ever partner is the late worker, make an excuse to cut your day short. I find we are so good at making excuses for certain work things we forget to do it for the simple things that could really make a difference and show that you care.
9: Make an effort to say hello and goodbye with a kiss every time. This was something Andrew and I did religiously for many years, now with rushing out the door and one getting up early to exercise or getting up with the kids we have become slack.
10: Try one new thing in the bedroom this week. There. I said it.
I would love to hear from you!
What are some other random acts of love we could be doing this week?
Happy Valentines Day everyone!!