Hi Rayne, loving your blog.
Would love some advice from yourself and your readers.
My just turned 2 year old starts to act up and be extremely naughty/rude after playing with one of my good friends nearly 4 year old. Its ok if there are a group of kids, but it occurs when it has just been the 2 of them together. Would you say something or just keep quiet? What can I do to try to avoid my daughter acting like this after she’s played with her. They would see each other on a weekly/fortnightly basis.
I think you should look at it as a good learning opportunity. Your daughter will come across many older kids and you wont always be there to supervise. I think your best option at the moment would be to watch them from afar. If you see something going on that isn’t in line with what is acceptable in your family then go over and distract them or change the subject.
You could always ask your girlfriend to watch them with you, that way it might be obvious and help you bring the behaviour into a discussion.
When she is ‘not being herself’ after a play date then try and talk to her about it. It’s amazing what they can understand at 2!!
Don’t say to her that she is being naughty or that the other child is naughty. Use language like “that behaviour is not nice” or “that’s not how we behave in our family”. My son is 2 and copies everything his older sister does and she is a real handful at the moment. I say to him “where is my Lux, this isn’t the Lux that I know” or “we don’t hit in our family”. I know it sounds crazy and I know they are only two but she will eventually understand. If the behaviour is dangerous I would speak to your friend otherwise it really is just kids learning what is and isn’t acceptable.
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NOTE: I am not a trained expert. The words here are my personal experience only. If you are having problems or feel like to you need help please consult your doctor.